We’ve all been bombarded by the story of Jerry Sandusky
the football coach at Penn State who brought shame and sanctions to the whole
football program by his sexually deviant behavior, even punishing the innocent
and taking away records. As shocking as
Sandusky’s sins are these very same actions are applauded in other venues. In
the name of tolerance, diversity and inclusion many schools and municipalities
encourage sexually confused youth to explore the “gay” identity.
I am posting a letter written by a man named Adam Flanders.
Mr. Flanders sent this letter to local authorities and media to expose what he
saw at a gay youth organization that disturbed him. Since he sent his letter
and various outlets have printed it he has had a change of mind and now wants
his letter out of the public domain. I guess he no longer is concerned about
these vulnerable youth. That doesn’t change the truth that gay people prey on
vulnerable youth, they always have and always will but now we have tax-funded
agencies to facilitate their activities!
Below is the letter as posted on Mass Resistance:
January 13, 2007
To Whom It May Concern:
My name is Adam Flanders. I am 20 years old and a current resident of
Belfast, Maine. I am writing to you on behalf of my own concerns, as
well as the concerns of other youth members and past members (who wish
to remain anonymous) of the nonprofit organization, OUT! ... As I Want to Be located in Rockland, Maine. We wish to inform you of the negligence and abuse of OUT advisors and adult members. Let me briefly summarize the original purpose of this organization.
OUT was thc rebirth of Outright, a Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual,
Transgender, and Questioning non-profit organization for youth support,
affirmation, and advocacy. When Outright Portland began demanding monetary compensation for their name (copyright), we were forced to alter ours. In addition, Rockland Outright fell
into a difficult financial situation after the close of the Coastal
AIDS Network (CAN), our primary source of funds. In addition, after
several legal disputes, Portland Outright closed and has been renewed under the name, "PRYSM " 'The remaining members of Rockland Outright formed OUT,
a small group consisting of several youth members and a few adult
advisors. The policies and ground rules were lazily thrown together as a
direct copycat of the former Portland Outright.
OUT has since been mismanaged in many ways, but I (we) wish
to inform you of the apparent negligence of the adult advisors and board
members resulting in the emotional distress, abuse, and harm brought to
youth members as young as fourteen years old. We can only speak from
personal experience, and since I am the only individual willing to
reveal my identity, I will begin with my personal experience of OUT and I will then summarize the complaints of those individuals who wish to remain anonymous.
The majority of my time with OUT was spent at the (public)
Lincoln Street Center (LSC) in Rockland, Maine once a week; every Friday
night from 7 to 10 PM. However, the location has now moved to the
private home of Ed and Virginia Slawson in Rockland, Maine and is now
held 3 times a week. During my time at OUT
meetings, my boyfriend [JL] and I would oftentimes sneak down to the
restrooms in the lower part of the building to have sex, beginning when
he was 14 and I was 18 -- mostly because his father disapproved of our
relationship and these meetings were our only opportunity to do this. We
did this on many occasions, and several of the other youth were aware
of this fact and I wouldn't doubt that similar relations occurred
between other members of OUT during our nightly meetings from 7 to 10 PM. I bet the advisors were aware of this, too.
There was virtually little to no level of chaperoning, as adult
advisors such as Phil Hansen and Lis Clark stressed the importance of a
youth-led organization. I recall that we never really knew where maybe
half the youth members were at any given time. At least two-thirds of
our group smoked avidly and I witnessed adult advisors "bumming"
cigarettes to youth members, some of them under the age of 18, and also
offering a light to those who already had cigarettes. OUT has
its own special smoke break, sometimes several a night in which most if
not all of the members gathered outside the LSC to smoke, while the few
non-smokers (myself included) stood and socialized.
Several members. particularly two friends, Chris
and Courtney (also youth members of the board) almost always showed up
to our meetings high on marijuana and/or drunk on alcohol. Even worse, I witnessed several advisors drinking too much at such special events as OUT
barbecues or other social events, with an especial focus on the night
of the Question 1 victory: many of the adults were completely drunk, and
our advisors, wanting to join the celebration, made the choice to
simply bring along OUT youth members. The celebration was held at the home of Michael Mayo in Thomaston and I
remember being touched and even groped by one of the older men there
(who was clearly intoxicated), and I've heard that other youth had
similar experiences. OUT advisors were also getting drunk and flirting with youth members. It made the entire situation very uncomfortable, especially at the "Rainbow Potluck," a weekly event inclusive of OUT members (still going on), attended primarily by gay and lesbian adults past the age of 40. I, myself and other youth were hit on by some of the adults
at the Rainbow Potluck, and I cannot possibly imagine that our advisors
were oblivious to this fact. In fact, it was occurring within our own
organization.
I once spent the night at one of the advisor's homes (Jeff), with
another youth member who was also his nephew (Tyler) up from Florida. Tyler
and I engaged in minor sexual contact beneath Jeff's loft that night,
though I awoke to find the two of them showering together outside,
completely in the nude. In my personal opinion, it is highly
inappropriate for an adult advisor in his thirties to be showering nude
with a youth member, age 14 at the time. The abuse did not stop there.
Late in the Summer of 2006, the president of OUT, Phil
Hansen was forcefully required to step down from his position. The other
board members held a secret meeting against Phil, and it was reported
to me that the reason being was because he had expressed some extreme
forms of sexism by completely disregarding what the female members of
the board had to say. One of the youth board members (Courtney) reported
to me that she left crying due to a sexual remark and personal attack
Phil had made against her during one of the board meetings, which have
always been held in the private home of Ed and Virginia Slawson. I was
not entirely surprised -- I recall Phil's stories he told to OUT
members, affectionate stories from Greek literature about young boys
having sexual relations with older men and open jokes about pedophilia
at meetings in his own positive spin on things. This type of sexual abuse and verbal harassment has become a common part of OUT
and its advisors and youth members -- almost like a mutual joke shared
by everyone, but making many if not most of the youth very uncomfortable
and distressed. It especially concerns me now because the meetings are
being held 3 times a week in the private home of Ed and Virginia Slawson.
To summarize some of the experiences of other youth members at OUT meetings and events, I will list the following for the purpose of simplicity, and then finish with a final, more personal note.
- [AC], a youth member, continually and repeatedly sexually harassing other youth members with advances and lies about his sexual relations, which according to him, were with every member of OUT. Even our coordinator (advisor) Lis Clark joked about how pathetic his constant lies were, and yet when myself and other youth members complained of the sexual harassment, Lis simply scoffed it off as immaturity.
- Another youth member, [JC] threatened suicide online and blamed it on myself, because he looked up to me and was jealous of my relationship with [JL]. The youth member Chris discovered [JC]'s online post while browsing a gay porn hookup site (www.gaywatch.com) during an OUT meeting. It caused a lot of distress to all of us, knowing he was out on the streets attempting suicide while we are at our meeting.
- Suicide threats and attempts have been a common part of our organization. We once invited a counselor to speak at one of our meetings, and 3 of the members just ran out of the building crying because they couldn't handle the situation. What most concerned me (and others) was the fact that none of the advisors made any attempt to catch up to them or follow up with them afterward.
- Several of our OUT meetings were spent writing letters to seemingly every democrat in Knox County. The youth members were made to write sympathetic letters at the heavy pressure from OUT's new president, J.P. Fecteau. I guess it worked because only a few months ago OUT received a $4,000 donation.
As you can see, there has been a lot of abuse and negligence that has
caused more harm to innocent youth than I could possibly begin to
describe, and it continues today, and tomorrow, and the next.
My own personal association with OUT came to a sudden and
violent end when my boyfriend [JL] of 14 months broke up with me. I knew
I could find him at the meeting, and when I physically latched onto him
and refused to let go, OUT advisors were forced to restrain me.
I had also brought a knife with me with plans to commit suicide and
possibly attempt to murder [JL] along with myself. I was arrested on
domestic assault charges. I think this is one example, among many I have
already shown, that reveals the inherent dangers an organization like OUT creates for vulnerable youth.
Even before that, there was a court-issued order against [JL] to not
have any contact with me, and while Lis Clark (advisor) knew this, she
still allowed us to sneak and see one another at OUT meetings,
helping us lie to [JL]'s parents on several occasions. Advisors have
been known to lie to parents. One 14 year old (Eric); his parents were
under the impression he was attending an art class every Friday night.
With my terminated membership, I've had time to reflect on the
horrors of this organization and how much influence it has on the
Rockland community and beyond -- especially impressionable youth --
youth who are encouraged by OUT advisors to disobey their parents and develop their GLB or T orientation. OUT hands out condoms and lubricant like candy.
Being the web designer and owning exclusive rights to all photos and
code, I, being permanently exiled from the organization I brought up,
made the obvious, perhaps bitter choice to take the site with me. I
threatened legal suit if they did not remove all web content from the
URL www.outasiwanttobe.org.
I am writing to you because I fear for the well-being of OUT
youth members, especially now that meetings are being held 3 times more
often and now in a private home rather than a public facility. It is my
hope that the Bureau of Health will do everything in their power to
seriously investigate this seemingly innocent organization that has such
a dark past full of negligence, irresponsibility, sexual harassment,
abuse, and ultimately emotional harm that could leave permanent scars in
the lives of many vulnerable youth in Maine, or even destroy their
lives completely. It makes me wonder, what horrendous acts will occur
this week, or the next, or in the many months to come? More importantly,
what will the BoH and the Rockland community do to make sure these
destructive adult "advisors" are no longer allowed to have influence on
these poor youth?
I appreciate your time and hope you will consider my words seriously
with the utmost concern for the welfare of Maine's children.
Sincerely,
[Signed]
Adam Flanders
Here is the link to the actual letter itself.
Here is what God says:
Psalm
40:4
Blessed is the man who makes the LORD his trust, who does not turn to the proud, to those who go astray after a lie!
Blessed is the man who makes the LORD his trust, who does not turn to the proud, to those who go astray after a lie!
Psalm
94:2
Rise up, O judge of the earth; repay to the proud what they deserve!
Rise up, O judge of the earth; repay to the proud what they deserve!
For the LORD of hosts has a day against all that is proud
and lofty, against all that is lifted up—and it shall be brought low;
Behold, I am against you, O proud one, declares the
Lord GOD of hosts, for your day has come, the time when I will punish you.
James 4:5-7
But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”
